- Date 2008-01-22 14:03 - Subject (no subject) - Security Public - Tags in my head

So Tweak just said “happy single’s awareness day”… is it surprising to anyone that not a day goes by that I’m not aware of my singleness? Perhaps in realizing there’s not much to be happy about on 'normal' days, I should be happy about it just for today?

Because honestly, every day- I am acutely aware every time I come home and no one greets me naked at the door with a cocktail, the dishes aren’t done, the floor not vacuumed, house not dusted, kitchen not mopped, bed not made, shower not scrubbed, dirty clothes still dirty, towels not folded, mail still in mailbox, bills in need of payment, checkbook unbalanced, trash in need of taking out, house cluttered, I’m out of coffee, creamer, sugar, ( those are the worst days for me) the grass growing, fence in need of weed-eating, yard in need of landscaping, plants needing water, refrigerator empty, litter box in need of emptying, or I'm out of catfood... I'm aware that I'm the only person living here.

….and then of course, not a day goes by that I don’t realize I’m not having SEX !

Did I miss anything? My dear single friends, please feel free to add to the list !!! Or if you’re not single and remember the days of old… or want to tell us “be glad you don’t have to …” then by all means, jump right in :)

P.S. Shout out to firehead…. I have the tv on in the background and just heard Number 15 on vh1’sMaxim Hot 100 just state that Guitar Hero is the greatest game ever made :) so I hope that alleviates any shame you may be feeling over your enjoyment of it :p

And they just had a commercial for a 'Rhythym of the 90's' double CD that I think I must buy... because it has Stereo MC's 'Connected' and dammit, I used to dance my ass off to that song!!! I was often single then too, but those were far more fun single days... not only was I in Atlanta for the entire decade, but I was younger and surrounded by queers and/or very colorful wonderful people.

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- User xie_xie_xie - Date 2008-01-22 21:21 (UTC) - Subject (no subject)

I don't want to get into a whole long list of the glories of singledom because I'm involved with someone right now and I'm really happy about that.

But in general, I'm not much for coupling up, living with someone, sharing intimate daily life with someone. I'm always very happy when I'm single, and my default state is an independent one. When I do get involved with someone, it's typically a huge surprise to me, and generally sneaks up on me when I'm not expecting it -- and DEFINITELY I'm never looking for it or missing it or thinking about it. It just happens.

I think the best thing for everyone is to make complete peace with themselves, to be HAPPY, as an independent, uncoupled, unfamilied person, and then make alliances with people out of active desire rather than because they feel incomplete.

vamphile tells me I'm wrong, however, and that most people aren't like that, and don't want to be, and don't need to be.

But it seems to me that I'm much happier being this way -- I don't mean single, I mean truly, deeply, genuinely fine whether I'm single or not -- and that other people could be too, if they let go of our society's fantasy of coupledom and familydom.

I honestly don't know.

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